For many parents, performing effective discipline is one of the most difficult and frustrating tasks in the parenting process, and it seems to be an endless test of will between you and your child. Our dear children are testing our nerves because they are exploring the limits around them. Every day, they are learning new skills little by little, and they are eager and excited to use them. Sometimes it is difficult to attract a young child’s attention, but it can be done. Setting rules and restrictions now, when your child is learning which behaviors are acceptable, will help prevent bigger problems in the future.
How do you “discipline” a young child? Discipline can help your child learn how to behave and not behave. It works best when you build a warm and loving relationship with your child. Discipline does not mean punishment. In fact, discipline and disciplinary strategies are positive. Based on speaking and listening, they monitor their behavior and develop important skills (such as the ability to get along) to guide children to know what behavior is appropriate, whether it is at home, a friend’s house, daycare, kindergarten, or school. If you are having trouble with this, here are some methods to effectively discipline your child.
Between 2 and 3 years old, children try to understand their behavior and how they influence the people around them. There is no timetable for how many incidents and reprimands are required before your child stops certain misbehaviors. But if you always answer in the same way, they may learn your lesson after four or five times.
It is essential for parents to be consistent in their teachings. Parents who do not follow a fixed set of rules and consequences they set up will have their children who don’t do too. Always remember to enforce your rules as kids learn by watching adults, especially their own parents.
It’s hard to stay calm when your kid yanks the dog’s tail or refuses to brush his teeth for the 1 millionth time. But if you scream angrily, the message you are trying to send will be lost, and the situation will get worse quickly. When children are overwhelmed by the negative emotions of their parents, they will see this emotion instead of hearing what they are saying. An angry reaction will only increase the entertainment value of the child, so resist the urge to raise your voice.
Take a deep breath, count to three, and then lower yourself to the level of your child’s sight. Be quick and firm when reprimanding, serious and severe. You may need to lower your expectations of his patience and self-control. If your goal is to make this day go smoothly, then neither of you should feel frustrated, this will be a constructive direction.
By now, young children are naturally curious, so it is wise to eliminate temptations as much as possible. This means keeping things like TVs, phones, and electronic devices within reach. Be aware of suffocation hazards, such as jewelry, buttons, and small objects that children can put in their mouths. And always store cleaning supplies and medicines safely out of the reach of children. For dangerous toys and objects, say “no” calmly, and then take your child away from the area or distract him through other activities. The important thing is not to hit or slap your child. At this age, children are unlikely to associate behavior with corporal punishment. The message you give when spanking is that it’s okay to spank when you are angry. Experts say that spanking is not more effective than other forms of discipline, such as timeouts.
If you are like most novice parents, when your child breaks the rules, you tend to reason with him, explain in detail what he did wrong, and threaten in detail that he will lose the toys that he likes if he does not stop misbehaving. But as a disciplinary strategy, talking openly is as ineffective as being overly emotional. Although 18-month-old children lack the cognitive ability to understand complex sentences, 2-year-old or 3-year-old children with more developed language skills still lack the attention to absorb what he says.
Sometimes, redirection and loss of privileges do not cure your child’s offensive behavior. If this is the case, you can consider giving him a one-minute time-out per year of age. This is a good discipline tool for children who are hurdling. As a general rule, about 1 minute per year is a good guide for waiting time. A longer waiting time has no added benefit. If your child gets up before you tell him the time-out is over, they may undermine your efforts. Time-out place should be a quiet spot that is free from danger and toys. Once time-out is over, have them apologise for the wrong behavior that they did.
Your child will never do what you say. If this happens, you will have to consider what might be wrong with her. Normal children resist control and know when you ask them to do things they don’t want to do. When this happens, they may think it makes sense to resist you. If they do behave well, snacks are like a spoonful of sugar. Using snacks and special snacks wisely is just another way to show your child that you are aware of and respect your feelings. Most importantly, this gives credibility to your disciplinary requirements.
No matter how frustrated you are about your child’s misbehavior, don’t vent in front of him. If people hear their boss say at work that he doesn’t know how to treat his employees and he can’t do anything about it, the employees will lose respect for him and run this place even more. It’s the same when children hear their parents talking about them in a desperate or negative way. They won’t end up with a good image of you as a parent and will end up repeating this behavior. It is completely normal to feel annoyed from time to time. If you get there, ask your spouse, pediatrician or trusted friend for support and advice.
Even the best young children will lose their temper from time to time. Tantrums are common in childhood because children can understand more than they can express. Young children can also feel frustrated in other ways, such as when they can’t dress a doll or can’t keep up with their older siblings. When your child wants more independence and autonomy prematurely, there will be power struggles. The best way to deal with tantrums is to avoid tantrums as much as possible. Here are some tips that can help
- Make sure your child is not misbehaving in order to attract attention. Develop the habit of discovering that your child is behaving well, which means rewarding your child for paying attention to positive behaviors.
- Let your child control the little things. This satisfies the need for independence and prevents tantrums. Provide secondary choices that he can accept, such as “Do you want option A or B for lunch?”
- When the children are playing or trying to master a new task, provide toys and games that are suitable for their age. In addition, before embarking on more challenging tasks, start with ease. This will build your confidence and motivation to try things that can be frustrating.
- When your child wants something, please consider the request carefully. Too outrageous? If not, try to be flexible.
- Know your child’s limits. If you know your child is tired, this is not the best time to go shopping or try one more thing.
When you lose your temper If your child loses his temper, keep calm. Don’t use your own frustration to complicate the problem. Children can feel when their parents are exhausted, which increases their frustration. Try to understand where your child comes from. For example, if your child is very disappointed, you may need to provide comfort. Children will seek the attention of their parents, and an easy way to get a good response is to misbehave. One of the best ways to reduce attention seeking behavior is to ignore it. Continue your activities, not paying attention to your child, but keeping sight. Remember, when you do this, your child’s behavior may get worse before it gets better. This can be frustrating, but it means that ignoring tantrums can be effective.
Your child will work harder to get your attention through inappropriate behavior because it has worked in the past. When your child learns that inappropriate behavior will not attract his attention, his behavior will begin to improve.
It is important to note that children who are at risk of harming themselves or others when they lose their temper should be taken to a quiet and safe place to calm down. Ignorance is not the proper way to deal with offensive or dangerous behavior. It is difficult for some children to stop losing their temper. In these situations, try to say: “I will help you calm down now.” But whatever you do, don’t reward your child by giving in. This just shows that losing your temper is an effective way to get what you want. Instead, verbally praise your child for regaining self-control. Remember, the best way you want to teach your child to get what he wants is through good behavior. As language skills improve and mature, children will deal with frustration better and are less likely to lose their temper. If you have trouble dealing with tantrums or have questions about discipline, please seek advice from your child’s doctor.